I wasn’t able to write a sex news post yesterday, I was busy napping and eating paella by the pool – I know, it sucks – but better late than never! On the menu today, we have a variety of sexy news and goodies, from stuff that shouldn’t go into your butt, stuff that should – the only two real categories of things in life if you ask me, to summer of consent and the new trailer of 50 Shades of Grey.

50 Shades of Grey, the trailer

Like the staff at Bustle, I’m still disappointed that Christian Grey won’t be embodied by Son of Anarchy Charlie Hunnam, but hey, Calvin Klein model Jamie Dornan isn’t too bad himself. You can think whatever you want about the book, it’s still pretty fucking great that mainstream cinema is going to show a story around BDSM. Maybe people will see that it’s not a perverted, marginalised sexual practice but something everybody can explore and enjoy.

Not in your butt

See, Grey knows what instruments to use to torture you with pleasure. He’s not gonna stick you with a toothbrush or a spatula. Sex educator Ducky Doolittle shows us a collection of objects, and vegetables, people have put in their butt for fun, as part of a campaign for toy company Tantus. Cucumbers look like fun, but there are so many cool, and especially safe, sex toys to use that you might want to switch to something a little bit more… ergonomically designed.

Sex is about safety, and consent too. Sexologist and member of Good For Her Carol Queen, calls for a #SummerOfConsent. This summer, as wild as the parties get, don’t forget this basic rule, and talk about it with your friends!

Singing and orgasming

Remember the ADAM music video in which the girl band would sing while being pleasured by a vibrator? Well, their fans have sent the band their own version of the video, and it’s pretty cool.